Building a Hater-Free Social Circle

We live in a world of haters. Do you have friends or a partner who brings you down? Maybe you have coworkers who are always complaining about things? Or maybe you're spending time dealing with the trolls who cruise social media looking to get a rise out of anyone listening. Whatever the case may be, I'm convinced of two things: 1)There are too many haters out there, 2) We give them way too much of our precious time and energy.

Because, let's face it. Haters are the worst. The absolute worst. They always have something negative to say and they become a drain on our emotional energy. This distracts us from our goals and worse, it rob us of our most precious resource: time. It's the one resource we can never get back.

Who's been hating in your life? Identify these people and eliminate them from your daily thoughts and actions. Or, at least come up with a protocol on how to limit the time and energy you give them. Maybe you put a time limit on how long you entertain their hating. Or, you ignore them and engage with them on your own terms. Each strategy is different, but in the end, you cannot let haters contaminate your world. Because that is precisely what they do.

Here's a little song to get you into the "hater free" mindset. "Blind to You" by Collie Buddz. "I'm blind to you, haters, can't touch, war instigators..."

Hope that you find a way to trim your world of haters. Trim the people in your social media feed. Trim the people in your social circle at work or in everyday life. Seek out people who have the same dreams, aspirations, and who support you. Seek out people who respect you and treat you accordingly. You will feel way better and you'll quickly realize how much more energy you have to devote to your goals. Let the haters hate, but don't let their negative vibes bring you down!

Please like, comment, and share the good vibes!

Oss!

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